Do You Do This At Work? Please Stop

In an earlier article I talked a lot about all the positive qualities that characterize employees who perform well at work.

In a perfect world, all of us would possess all of these qualities.

Related Reading: Qualities of High Functioning Employees

In the real world however, we all have different personalities and as colleagues we all have to learn to play nice in the sandbox with each other.

There are a few not so positive qualities and characteristics that I have observed in my many years of working in a Corporate environment. They may not apply to you, but may hold true for someone that you may know.

The Negative Nancy or Complaining Carrie

If this happens to be you. Please Stop. Seriously. Stop. Not only does constant complaining within the workplace bring down the morale of your fellow co-workers, at times it can be particularly draining to constantly listen to someone who only speaks negatively or complains constantly. Sharing a concern is one thing, but always being the one to complain about projects, or always finding reasons why upper management is unfair is not cool.  

If this is not you, but however someone that you know, it can be particularly tricky trying to engage in positive conversations with this type of individual.

One option is to avoid the person completely. But let’s face it, you work together and you want to be able to engage with everyone without having to cherry pick your interactions because of one person’s negativity.

Instead try stearing conversations with this individual towards more of a positive light. With the right kind of persuasion, you may be able to turn them around.

Dollars and Cents Talker

A golden unspoken rule in the workplace is to never bring up the topic of salary amongst colleagues. However, there are a few who choose to jump over this golden rule and bring up the topic anyway.

This is a major no-no for many reasons. Salary conversations, can league to a host of negative outcomes, such as potential wage wars, ill feelings amongst coworker and mistrust of management.

Additionally, information on who earns more than you in the workplace can lead to an overall feeling of being undervalued.

Tread lightly on conversations about wages and salaries with colleagues. It just makes for better business sense.

If you have a colleague who constantly wants to ask you questions about your salary, or the salaries of others in the workplace, try changing the topic, or being upfront even, and just simply let them know that you feel uncomfortable discussing this topic.

Gossip Guru

Every workplace has one. The Gossip Grapevine, Guru or Blabbermouth. Whatever term you like best. These types of individuals know everything about everything and everything about everyone.

Be particularly mindful of the fact that anyone who brings news to you, will carry news about you. If you find yourself being that person, try scaling back.

Every one loves a juicy story especially one that involves people that you know and work with. But ask yourself: What value am I adding to my life by constantly discussing someone else’s?  Seriously. Stop It.

Behind Closed Doors (or Cubicle Closer)

One of the things that I have seen a lot of in my Corporate career is colleagues who choose to take the approach of being 100% anti social at work.

Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t necessarily think that you have to be 100% happy and chipper at work 100% of the time. However, it is important to be cordial.

You may know someone who chooses to be behind closed doors all day, or who opts to mostly shield themselves behind their cubicle. Or maybe you are guilty of doing so?

Being behind closed doors or the one to stay in your cubicle all day creates an invisible barrier between you and your coworkers. It gives an air of being unapproachable and makes it highly likely you will not be the first person whom others on the team go to for help or with information.

No one will seek you out for your skills or expertise, you may even get passed up for promotions or projects.

In the workplace it is desirable to interact with others. It creates a spirit of comradery and builds unity amongst teams.

Think about it this way, by occasionaly not closing your door or hiding behind your cubicle, you will be better able to gain leverage at the workplace in the form of assistance from your colleagues, or just general advice when you need it.

The BIG Bully

This one is pretty self explanatory. If you are the one going around making your colleagues’ lives miserable. You know what to do. 

Put a halt to it. 

These type of individuals purposely create animosity, and fear amongst others in the workplace, through scare tactics, by capitalizing upon friendships with management, and even with unkind words and actions in respect to office assignments. 

It goes without saying that this type of behavior in addition to creating fear, also lowers the office morale. It’s just one of those things that should not be acceptable in any work place.  


Have you exhibited one or more of these behaviors at work? Or do you know someone who does?

Share some experiences with me.

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  1. April 27, 2018 / 12:30 pm

    I have been on the receiving end of the bullying and just had to resign due to the stress and depression that came with it. This is such an inspiring and truthful article that it resonated with me and I am sure a lot more people.

    • Thiswaymommy
      April 28, 2018 / 2:39 pm

      I am saddened to hear that you had to bear such unacceptable behavior. Thank you for reading and hopefully you have moved on to much greener and better pastures!

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